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  The lost congregation, or something else?

  by spiritwalker in

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  while i have seen on many occasions the benefit of sharing our past problems, or life, with others who have been through the same.

  i am very curious as to what the real benefit would be, to leaving a religion of such control and segregated thinking, only to venture online or in person to others who are basically a lost congregation of the religion.

  does it benefit a person to seek out former jehovah's witnesses?

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  Hi Woodland,

  What I meant by "hurt here" I meant their feelings. Things can get taken the wrong way sometimes. Sometimes things are taken the right way from someone who is in alot of pain and lashing out at anyone or anything. Some people are inexperianced on the internet and take every word as gospel (I'm getting better at not doing that). The vast majority here would not purposly hurt anyone but there are a few who have a point to prove and end up hurting someone.

  Does that answer the question Woodland?
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  My Brother Died Today

  by Blueblades in

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  i consider all who post here as my family.we have all been hurt in some way.my brother died today.. blueblades,who has six sisters left.mom,dad,one sister and two brothers died.i'm the only man in the family now.

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  My sympathy to you and your family.

  Your brother is in your heart, your mind and memories now. He has not left you.
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  Escaping Communists, Nazis and WTS, the differences.

  by yesidid in

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  my husband?s family was under russian communist rule and escaped when he was a boy.

  then for several years they were the victims of nazi oppression.

  during that time they became witnesses and have been for many years.. .

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  All I can think of to say is WOW!

  ((((((((To you both))))))))
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  The lost congregation, or something else?

  by spiritwalker in

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  while i have seen on many occasions the benefit of sharing our past problems, or life, with others who have been through the same.

  i am very curious as to what the real benefit would be, to leaving a religion of such control and segregated thinking, only to venture online or in person to others who are basically a lost congregation of the religion.

  does it benefit a person to seek out former jehovah's witnesses?

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  Been there

  Spiritwalker.......Welcome to the "Worldwide Congregation of EX JW's" I extend you an invitation to hang around and be able to answer your question from experiance.
  

  I liken this place to a Half Way House. People who have been imprisoned for long periods of time come here to get the coping and social skills to move on to the real world. Some people stick their head in the door and move on. Some hang around awhile, are bored and move on. Some find their home here and stay forever. Some come back to visit. Some stay and return the kindness and support they received when they first came. Some get jobs here (MODS). Some get their butts kicked out because they just can't play nice. Some even go back to prison. This all sounds like real people, real world, real LIFE to me.

  I have been out for almost 30 years but I had not let go of alot of what was drummed into my head as a child. This place gave me validation and some closure to that part of my life. A part of me was desperatly lonely for someone to understand what I had endured, I found that here. To know that I do not walk this earth totally alone brought me comfort.

  I stopped drinking 20 years ago. I went thru a month long program then was required to attend AA meetings. I hated the meetings because they were too much like "MEETINGS". What did give me great strength to see the future as a non-drinker was the experiances of the people that went before me being successful at life with out alcohol. I knew I could do it. One step at a time. The proof was in front of me. This place is alot like that. The new ones out can see people in all stages of living and know they too can make it.

  People do change here. I have seen it. I have seen very angry people mellow after releasing their anger and hurt here. It is a safe place for many to mature and move on. Some people have been hurt here also and for that I feel sorrow but that too is life.
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  I'm a aunt.....woohooo

  by morty in

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  after a long struggle for my little sister to have a baby,she is now a proud mom to a 7lb 11oz baby boy...i am so excited....just wanted to share my happiness for her...you see she was told she would never have a baby because of cancer...after many,many miscarriages her husband and her were finally told they would have a baby..she had a tuff pregnantcy..she was bed ridden for the last 2 months and had shots of steroids every day for the last 2 months to get the babies lungs growing.

  ( due to the fact they thought she would go real early because she started labour 3 times...but 3 times they stopped labour) mom,dad, and baby are healthy and happy.they go home in 2 days and i cant wait to hold my first nephew...thanks for reading and sharring my happiness.

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  Congratulations

  on the new arrival.

  I can see a very spoiled little boy in the making.

  Enjoy!
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  Has Any One Heard on MYELOMA

  by orangefatcat in

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  i was wondering if anyone knows anything about the disease myeloma.

  and would you happen to know of anyone who has it..

  orangefatcat...

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  ((((((((((OFC))))))))))

  If you don't mind I'll be sending up a little prayer for a recovery, some strength and peace of mind for you and your family. I am saddened by your news.
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  Would you do this?

  by Been there in

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  would you pee for someone to pass a pee test for a new job?

  i was asked to do so.

  i could pass with flying colors.

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  Once again thank you all for the replies. I wish I was good at breaking all the comments down like some people......but I'm not so I just do the blanket thank you. Hope you don't mind.

  Well, the pee thing is taken care of. I couldn't give it but I had no problem tracking down someone who would. Convieniant conscience? It's the detective in me.

  No = 10

  Yes = 8

  ??? = 8

  If I'm not mistaken this post will put me at 500 (finally) posts and make me a master member. Yeh Me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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  Would you do this?

  by Been there in

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  would you pee for someone to pass a pee test for a new job?

  i was asked to do so.

  i could pass with flying colors.

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  No = 8

  Yes = 5

  ??? = 8 (Not sure if they are yes or no just info or statements)
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  Would you do this?

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  would you pee for someone to pass a pee test for a new job?

  i was asked to do so.

  i could pass with flying colors.

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  Thank you again everyone for your replies. Long list!!!!!!!!!

  The person in question did not have time to detox or they would have. His boss changed company's and took a few guys with him and had no idea there might be a problem. He does not work impaired as it is done before bed (to aid in sleeping). It would not affect me in anyway if I did it and most likely would not get caught but it may affect me if I didn't and he didn't get the job.

  I guess I want to know why I won't do it. I am a very honest person. I follow the law (most of the time, I have a lead foot though). I was curious if it was the JW upbringing that puts me on my moral high ground. I have been out along time but still have very high standards that I hold myself to (and others sorry to say). Another reason is possibly being Canadian I have never wanted to get in any kind of legal trouble so as not to be deported (unlikely, but possible).

  So did the WBTS make my conscience? and can it be over riden?
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  Would you do this?

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  would you pee for someone to pass a pee test for a new job?

  i was asked to do so.

  i could pass with flying colors.

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  Been there

  Thank you everyone for your replies so far. The drug in question here is pot. I personally feel it should be legalized for recreational use as I think it is even less dangerous then too much alcohol. As it stands, it is not tolerated, hence the problem.

  Thank you for the link Blondie, they don't have a drug law listing for my state (of course). I'm off to work and will reply when I get home to further posts. Thanks guys!